Do I have intrinsic value?

The intrinsic value of something is said to be the value that that thing has “in itself,” or “for its own sake,” or “as such,” or “in its own right.” – Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy

Being chronically ill has really shaken my self-confidence.  My counsellor introduced the idea that I have intrinsic value.  She suggested that I think of something I loved like a pet that had done nothing yet I loved it anyway.  She explained that my pet rabbit had intrinsic value and so do I.  She suggested that everyone has intrinsic value and deserves to be loved.

I found this idea tricky from the start.  Firstly, I wasn’t convinced that value is intrinsic to objects, animals or people.  Secondly, and most significantly the idea that I have intrinsic value was so alien to me it was hard to get a handle on it.

My next issue came with the idea that people or animals deserve love because of their intrinsic value.  If the value is intrinsic it shouldn’t be because they deserve it, they should have value just because they exist.

I then thought about how intrinsic value could be related to uniqueness.  Each person, animal landscape only exists once.  There is no one else in the world exactly like me.  Maybe my uniqueness is my intrinsic value.

I still struggled to really get to grips with and absorb this.  I am struggling to ‘get’ the concept itself.  And I’m having trouble with the idea that this particular self (me) has worth beyond what I can do.  I read a few articles  one given to me by my counsellor, and a couple I found on the internet.  It took a week or two of mulling over the ideas before I could begin to pull together a few thoughts.

I think I do have an issue with the intrinsic part of intrinsic worth.  I think value is something that is ascribed to things by others.  There are all kinds of ways of valuing things.  It seems to me that things have intrinsic properties and those properties may have value, but whether or not those properties are valued will depend on whoever is doing the valuing.  There is also a cultural element.  The reasons puppies are considered to deserve love and care isn’t to do with their intrinsic puppyness but because the culture of this society values dogs as companions and pets.  Or because of the value given to innocence and cuteness.

Then I thought about approaching the problem from another direction, by thinking about my own values.  I value sentience, consciousness and recognise that love and care will allow a person to flourish, neglect or cruelty will cause suffering.  Therefore, I believe it’s right that humans should be given that care and love.  It also makes sense from a practical point of view.  Children that are nurtured are more likely grow up resilient and kind, those that are neglected and mistreated are more likely to have physical and mental health problems.

I also see the potential in human beings to grow and change.  Almost everyone has this capacity to some extent.  A person has future potential even if their behaviour to date suggests they don’t deserve care and affection.

Even if I am sceptical of the philosophical concept of intrinsic worth I still think that sentience, consciousness, uniqueness and the potential to grow and change give human value.  I am against unkindness and cruelty for ethical and pragmatic reasons.  And as I am sentient, conscious, have the potential to grow, respond to kindness, and am unique I should value myself in the same way.

I also believe in valuing people for who they are not what they do.  That is the character they show over time. And I believe in overlooking and forgiving people’s flaws (within reason).  I should apply those values to myself too.

The articles I read:

The importance of self-worth – PsychAlive.org

What is the value of a human being? – Leon Pomeroy Psychology Today

Intrinsic vs Extrinsic Value–  Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy

 

 

 

In Practice: Making the most of small pleasures

Tuesday wasn’t a good day.  I  broke a glass while making breakfast and had to rush to my doctor’s appointment through the snow.  I struggled to cross the icy roads safely.  My migraine brain disliked the glare from the snow, the cold outside and the heat in the GP surgery. Later that day I got a crushing migraine and spent most of the afternoon in bed.

But in between I managed to take advantage of a couple of pleasant moments, and remembered to use a couple of techniques for making the most of small pleasures

It didn’t make the feelings of sadness or discomfort less intense but I’m glad I remembered to pause for a moment and enjoy these moments too.  I was reminded of the poem A Dust of Snow by Robert Frost.  It was a bad day – but there were happy moments too.

“Whatever else there is, there’s this as well” – Maitreyabandhu1

Adding to my happiness jar2

I wrote a note to add to my collection of happy memories that I keep in a jar on my desk.

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“Sharing a sweet funny moment with strangers before going on with my day.

I was walking through the park and saw small dog going crazy in the snow.  Wriggling on its back, kicking the snow up behind himself, scrabbling in it with his front paws, pushing his head in a snow drift.  I couldn’t help laughing out loud.  His owners were laughing so hard they could hardly stand up straight when he sat up his eyebrows and moustaches covered in snow and looked around puzzled before dashing about again.”

Pausing to enjoy the sensory aspects of a moment

On the way home walking through the same park I stopped for a moment.  Felt the warm sun on one cheek and cold air on the other.  Watched the gently swirling snow blown of the trees and felt it land on my face.  Heard the crunch of snow when I walked where no one else had.  Admired the imprint of boots in the snow.  Felt snuggly and warm in all my layers with soft fabric next to my skin.  Saw the pattern of the shadows made by the sun through the trees.  Appreciated the blue of the sky after the dark cloud earlier.  Heard children laughing and playing in the school yard next to the park.  Heard birds in the trees.  Experienced a sense of peace alone in an open space.

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Resources

1. ‘This’ by Maitreyabandhu,  Crumb Road, quoted in Burch & Penman Mindfulness for Health

2. Make a happiness jar Can you bottle happiness?